3.22 The 90 by 10 PRINCIPLE for MOTIVATION & STRESS RELIEF

The 90 By 10 Principle

 For Motivation & Stress Relief

     

The 90 by10 Principle for

MOTIVATION & STRESS RELIEF

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Let us take a simple example of a morning situation at home:

You are feeling that you are already late to go to office. You started eating quickly breakfast along with your five year old son, who also has to catch the school bus. Your son, in hurry dropped a cup of coffee onto your office dress. You have no control over what just happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react?

Scenario-1               RIGHT REACTION

Scenario-2               WRONG  REACTION

Here is what could have and should have happened. Your son is frightened to see the scene. When he is about to cry for his fault, you gently say, "Dear, It is okay for today. You just need to be more careful next time". Rush to your bed room to grab another dress and change it. You come back cheerfully to see off your child while he is getting into the school bus. The child forgets what all happened and continues his further activities normally. Worried wife feels greatly relieved, consoles herself and get ready to think seriously to improve things and avoid such situations in future. The incidence actually motivates for betterment. The story ends fast.

You shout and scold your kid for carelessness. You criticise and curse your wife for improper arrangements on dining table. A short verbal battle follows. The child breaks down in tears. He becomes upset. Because of crying, he gets delayed and misses the school bus. Your wife struggles &somehow makes alternate arrangement to go to school. Finally, reaches school late. The examination started. Late comers are asked to go home. Too much discussion with class teacher and so on… a series of problems continue like a chain reaction. In this process, your wife loses her temper, misses whatever she planned for the day and suffers loss of valuable time, precious peace and so on. The child is also left in utter confusion and dismay. You also leave the house angrily with unusual rush. Due to your impatient starting and unpleasant mood, we can imagine your state of affairs and dealings in your work place. You will surely spoil the day like the other two. It is like a chain reaction, unfortunate things continue for all the three throughout the day, making it terrible. With all these happenings, when all of you meet in the evening at home, the situation is worse with strained relations & so on….The story continues and is endless.

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Why did you have a bad day? Did the coffee cause it? Did your child cause it? Did your wife cause it? Did you cause it?
The answer is you and only your undesirable over reaction. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those few seconds is what caused bad day not only for you, but also to your whole family.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle: If someone criticizes about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and think coolly. If there is any truth in it, accept gracefully and try to correct yourself.  Otherwise, simply ignore it. Use this as a chance to improve yourself and increase your learning. Then, it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, necessity of changing the job, getting stressed out etc.

 Apply the 90-10 principle and you will be amazed at the results: You will lose nothing if you try it. Whenever such problems are faced, immediately remember the incredible 90-10 principle. This results in saving yourself and also other people too from suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. By understanding and applying the 90/10 principle every time, you can change your way of life for betterment, leading to achieve sure success.